70/30

What is 70/30?

My lecturer said it is a ‘You : Me’ ratio in a relationship.
Which means, when committed into a relationship, I’ll give 70% of my heart to you, and the 30% left is for me to love myself.

70% of my heart is occupied by you.
Sounds so nice, right? Oooh~

In other way, it means do not ever give someone 100%!!
It’s a piece of advice from my lecture to one of my course mates, telling him not to be ‘too into’ the relationship, and concentrate on study.

Maybe it is rational to practice this in a relationship.

Sorry, not for me.

I practice 30/70 ratio. It could be said that I am selfish, but dear, I just wanna protect myself.
Had lunch with my law studies lecturer today. He concluded the personalities among each of us. It came to a ‘Wow…huh…’ when he finished mine. So direct and correctly pointed out the problem which I thought I’d hidden it so well.

Yeah, I was hurt before. That makes me so selfish in dividing the proportion now. 30% is for you. 70% is for me myself.

I used to give someone 100% until I get lost in the relationship.

Dare no more…

How bout you?
What is the ideal proportion?
This is an interesting question.

~ whispers in bar ~

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There was a senior told me, if she had an eraser, she would erase what she’d experienced in second semester as a Quantity student.
If I could ever make a wish, I wish to have a frame, I’ll keep the memory of my life during second semester in university.
To find a word to describe my second semester, ‘Amazing!!’, I think.

This semester was tough, indeed, which was beyond my capacity to bear with in the beginning. 22 assignments (with presentations) encountered, all-time-bulking course works, chasing life in meeting the deadlines of the assignments, struggling in handling the relationship group members… These were lessons which more than what had been offered by the university.

I am amazed by my capacity to handle and come through all those ‘mission-impossible’.
I am amazed by the blessings of God that showered upon me.
I am amazed by my transformation within me, which somehow, made me feel that I’m more mature than ever before.
I am amazed by my friends with their blessings and companionship.

This is the season that stretched me, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
I thank God for his guidance and grace that led me through all these.
I thank my friends for all your blessings, prayers, availability when I was helpless.

Second semesters ends here with a ‘heavy-4-credit-hour-paper’ and a wonderful lunch with our lecturer, Mr. Emil.

Holidays starts.

Next station: To be called ‘Second year Senior’, Amen!!

And I believe, this would be a FRUITFULL SEASON for me! Praise God!!

~ whispers in bar ~

I like physic

I like physic, since it can be applied in all aspect in our life even in the relationship between two people.

Met a person recently, just few days ago.

I admitted to Angela that there’s current flow between us. Angela showed me the physic equation, V=IR, where

V = Voltage
I = Current
R = Resistant

Application of the equation and a fluorescent light functioning principle will explain it all.

In a circuit, when there’s a voltage, there must be current flow with a certain amount of resistant. And, resistant is usually constant, which means, in every relationship, there must be resistant, troubles and problems in each stage. (Supposed everyone knows.)

Ok, let’s go to the case of fluorescent light.

When there’s a high voltage across the electrodes, it will ionize the gas filling in the tube.
Ionized particles will bring more current flow in the tube. And light emitted.

Light emitted = sparks exist.

Unlike the way I handle the relationship like ever before, this time I’m not so eager to enter. Let time and more understanding to generate more current flow before I really commit myself. Even if it’s failed in the half way, at least, I can minimize the damage on both of us.

Slow and steady, as what A-gao told me.

I like physic, still.

~ whispers in bar ~